- Try gentle caresses and massage rather than intercourse. Avoid touching genitals and breasts, this will help both of you to relax and experience sensual enjoyment.
- Bathing together by candlelight with soft music will not only relax you, it will encourage sesuality.
- Plan times when you can relax and be together without being disturbed.
- Agree beforehand to tell your partner if you experience any pain or discomfort.
- Make time for foreplay and use plenty of lubrication when you decide to go on to intercourse.
- Fantasising about your best sexual experience will increase enjoyment.
- Your ability to reach orgasm should not be affected unless you are taking an anti-depressant that delays orgasm. This can be prevented by longer foreplay.
Sadly, cancer has the reputation for putting a finger on the trouble spots in a marriage or relationship.
Very often, partners wanting to be supportive say the wrong thing, or women reeling from the shock of diagnosis misunderstand a gesture. The loneliness of being a cancer patient can’t always be shared, even with a person closest to you. The strongest marriage or relationship may take strain, so don’t be too proud to seek help. And don’t listen to people who tell you to just get on with it and be grateful.
One thing cancer should convince you of is to live your life the way you want to.